Please, please, please – don’t listen to me!

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This may sound funny coming from a guy who makes his living with personal development, but I’m not a big fan of the personal development industry.

Well, maybe it’s not the industry as a whole. Really it’s more about the way the message is often delivered. However well meaning, the way it often lands is, “Your life isn’t good enough, and you need to change so it is.”

Now,I’m aware that some of this is a matter of focus. I mean, if you live in a world of loose screws, and you have this most amazing screwdriver that can tighten those screws, you’re probably not going to spend a lot of your time telling people how OK it is to have a screw loose. You’re going to shout out, “Hey, I can help you with that!”

Regardless, the message as it lands can leave people feeling that they or their lives don’t measure up.

So I want to say, strongly, unequivocally, that I don’t want you to listen to a thing I say here…UNLESS it speaks to an itch you feel the need to scratch.

What set me off on this little tirade? A tweet from someone (whose work I actually admire and respect) about the need to “play big.”

I don’t happen to believe that everyone needs, or is even wired to play big, at least not in the testosterone-dripping, take-the-hill-boys kind of way it’s often described. Play meaningfully? Sure. Play impactfully? I can go with that. Play deeply? Sounds good. And playing big can be part of any of those. And then again, maybe not.

Ultimately, the only one who really knows what feels right is YOU.

If the message “stop playing small and play the big you were meant to play” resonates and hits home as your own personal truth, then excellent! Run with it. Explore what’s stopping you. Dive into the possibilities.

But if it leaves you feeling like you should play big, even though the idea doesn’t really make your Inner Truth sing, then let all that slide right off your back. One size does not fit all, and you are the best expert in what’s right for you.

One quick caveat to keep in mind, though. Sometimes, “No, that doesn’t speak to me” is really true, and sometimes it’s just a great way to avoid the need to step outside your comfort zone. So if you decide that some piece of personal development doesn’t speak to that Inner Truth, pause and ask, “Is that really true? Or is that avoidance?”

The more you stop and listen to yourself, the better you’ll get at feeling into your own truth, and the more your own self-expertise will naturally come into play.

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